My mother Lulu is the youngest of 6 children- 5 girls & 1 boy- each of them had two children each, my uncle has 2 girls & my aunt Betty had 2 boys.
Random fact, except my 2 oldest cousins in Taiwan- all my cousins have Irish/german spouses- as I was sitting at the "cousin's table", I looked around at them- Chinese relatives with significant others that are fair, blond, with blue/green eyes- my boyfriend Matt would fit right in- it was not planned. Even my cousin Alex who is a year younger has been with Maggie for 5 years- shes a tiny blond with big blue eyes who is a children's librarian. they met in Germany but she is from the mid west with an Italian last name.
Our cousin Albert who is the bride's older brother has 2 children with his wife Michele~ Julia & Justin- really the most adorable part of the family so far.
See, Alex, Jeff, & myself are the "youngest first- cousins" but we are all pushing 30, I'd like to say. Ah, there is still 2.5 years for me but im mentally preparing myself since settling down was never a long-term goal, i figure it happens when it happens.
Most of my cousins are 10+ years my senior, Im not intimidated by there age per se just the fact they have more success b/c they have lived longer so they naturally have more experience. Yea, who doesnt think they know it all at 18 or 25. now at 27- there is a part of me who thinks Im set for the next level in life which means stop playing the field (that part is easy with the slim pickings) + get into a career that will provide a steady income.
There was a time when I thought money was everything. Well, we need to provide for our children without depriving ourself - the house, cars, best schools, vacations, clothes, furniture- nothing hand me down - Im the one who gives the clothes away - all the best for my family- whenever that time will be.
Am I too young to focus on babies?
Somebody told me: You are a New Yorker, dont think of marriage until your mid-3o's.
So now, Im starting to believe Im not a "true" New Yorker. Im not even a conventional person. I really am tempted to just elope with my lover. Everyone thinks I like being the center of attention b/c I dress flashy & my body stands out in anything- the truth is, everybody should be part of the "big day".
Truth be told- weddings are celebrations & meant for sharing with loved ones. Still, when you stick a group of people in a room who dont know one another then force them to sit at a table & eat then the real party starts... especially if there is an "open bar"
Like anything else, if the chemistry between the parties is non existent then everyone will get bored. Who needs that? I worry is one person is stressed let alone dozens-
Im going to find a creative way to bring all the ones nearest & dearest in on the festivities without making them want to jump out into their "birthday suit" half way through MY BIG DAY...
Back to my Cousin, Formerly Miss Ma - now, Mrs. GERMER:-)
Ok, Amy never happier. Could it have been the alcohol? As her maid of honor said in her speech: I knew her through the vodka phase, the whiskey phase, the Miller Light with ice phase....what?!
Right away Mick responded: Don't blame me for that! *laughter*
Weddings are a bit rehearsed. They are like a play with different "players/ actors" each time. Its not just this wedding, I fear, its all weddings. Perhaps Im being too general - Im still trying to find a happy medium b/t commitment (being tied down) & singledom (freedom).
The food is always over cooked & mass produced. But this is about the BRIDE, not us enjoying the music, food or company - its not her fault. I DONT blame her one bit- its tradition by society. Its the great circle of life. Its obvious they want children. I wish Amy & Mick the best always, they are really a great couple. Im certainly not one to judge...
At least a bride can say for one night- she had her cake & ate it too.
xoxo C*
