*Break-ups are Beautiful*

Relationships have always been an intricate part of my life. I had my first kiss at 13 with a boy around the corner- we were summer sweethearts -he was not my first "official" boyfriend - once school started, he began dating my friend who introduced us & I was happy for them.

We all deserve to be with the one who brings out our best NOT our worst.

At 17, i was sent to a co -ED Boarding School in Kingston, PA. It was a former Seminary (for nuns) in the mountains. the closest CITY is called Willes-Barre. I had a crush on a tall hockey player from the Chech Republic. His name was Lucaj Palvacheck - very European. He was a nice guy. A mutual friend hooked us up. But something was missing - communication for one, his accent was too thick his English was worse.

It was not heart - breaking. Just dissapointing. When we are younger, whether we date someone for one week or one month, saying GOOD-BYE feels like a death. Like a piece of you is missing. An uncle used to say to me: remember, we are born lone. We die alone.
What a philosophy! Its only an opinion. Right?

As a writer & constant communicator, i always knew the person I'm meant to be with could at least speak the same language. As I got more "relationship" & LIFE experience, I discovered speaking the SAME language meant more than the English language:)

When you share your TIME with someone, you dont always have to talk - body language works just fine in an intimate bond. But at the end of the day - communication is about being selfless- its about teling your partner things that you would never tell anybody else bc when you look into that person's eyes you see they really care- they wont tease you or exploit you- you see LOVE & total TRUST -

I learned if you or the person you are dating cannot do that at any point in the affair then its best to walk away.

I never would have learned simple lessons like this if I didn't take the chance. So why are break ups beautiful?

Well, if you loved someone then a breakup is NOT the end- its the beginning of a new phase of your relationship. Its an exciting NEW chapter in your life as well - you moved on & hopefully gained valuable information about yourself. Through the experience, you learned what you don't want, what you can handle - what are your limits in love- how much of yourself are you willing to sacrifice for another person.

Personally, I gave long distance more than one shot. It could have been right. Timing is a valuable factor that most of us ignore b/c FEELINGS are more powerful than logic - unless you are a cold blooded soci path & trust me, they are out there - luckily, I steer clear of those unemotional types *YIKES*

If you take the positive from a break up, its definitely NOT the end of the world. Its a time for GROWTH & ACCEPTANCE. Again, its part of LIFE.
All the best,
Crystal.